Saturday, August 11, 2018

Soulmates, Let Them Be Who and What They are Meant to Be

"See, you make me believe in something..." 

"Something like love?" 

"I can't say. But we do belong together, on some level." 

"Belong lovers?" 

"Like lovers, or as friends, or as something entirely different." 

"Yes, like we light each other's lives." 

"Yes, like we awaken each other's souls." 

"I know what you mean." 

"I know you do!" 

A soulmate is not necessarily a bond with a significant other, or even a friend. That connection, that bond, is often indefinable, but it's a rare and precious thing in life to find, don’t you think?

I have been lucky to have found such connections. Every person has different layers to their personality, and I believe we find different bits of ourselves in different people. We connect with them, sometimes in most unexpected situations, at times when you need them the most. They inspire you in some ways, give you hope and you share a part of your soul with them.

Some are here to stay for life, others are fleeting appearances, who stay until you've both filled a part of each others souls before moving on.

Let your soulmates be who and what they are meant to be. This notion, of soulmates being ‘two halves joining to make one’, of them having to be your life partner or being a romantic connection, is an illusion.

As much as I love my husband, he is not my only soulmate. Our teenage romance has grown into adulthood love; we’ve grown together, filling each other’s voids, celebrating each other's differences and bringing out the best in one and other.

But there are others too, kindred spirits - my sister, a college mate, an artist I befriended, my grandfather, my best friend - all of whom help you see your own beauty, and also your flaws. They love you not for who you are, but for who you are becoming. They challenge you, inspire you, reveal a new shade of your personality and give you the courage to explore that part of you. 

The one who will always be your first love, your little sister. With whom you formed a connection as soon as you held her in your arms, who helped you nurture your motherly instinct, who always looked up to you and made you feel beautiful and well-deserved even if you didn’t, and in whom you place your eternal trust.

The one with whom you were once friends with but despite having had a fall out, you will remember her for the lessons she taught in friendship. She came in your life when you were discovering your womanhood and between dressing up, gossiping and crushing on boys, you became aware of the woman you want to become and the friends you want to keep.

The one who goes to art shows with you, who understands the struggles of a creative soul and the daily batting of fears and anxiety. It is easy to empathize with each other; in easing the vulnerabilities and demands of a self employed life you realize that commitment, discipline and passion are the primary motivations that will keep you going.

The one who opened up your eyes to the world and its vastness, whom you admire and respect and have tried to emulate since you were a kid. You feel you’ve inherited a part of his soul, and you hope to reach upto his geniuses in your lifetime.

The one you formed an instant connection with when you first met twenty years back and remains your one-call-away friend - no matter how far apart you are geographically. You love each other with a pure conviction, lifting each other’s spirits, sharing similar interests and having a laugh at the silliest of things.

Let your soulmates be who and what they are meant to be. Celebrate these many connections that come your way, recognize their impact, be grateful for them, and let your souls evolve with each one of them.

Article first published in Unread Magazine  -

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  1. You said it, Aditi! People need to look at soulmates beyond love.

  2. This is lovely! I definitely think soulmates isn't just a romantic soul - you can find that connect within so many things!


  3. This is so true, I'm lucky enough too and soulmates are so special!

    Soph - x

  4. I so agree. A soulmate could be anyone...And, you are lucky if you have met yours!

  5. I couldn't agree more and I love that your article was featured there. Congrats!
    Soulmates are people who occupy a place in our heart and soul. :)